Wednesday, May 19, 2010

...And I'm Anchored Through My Vagina


I was recently hanging out with my friend Meghan B, a fellow pole dancer and a woman who is NOT afraid to be in her body.  We were talking about pole dancing, and women who pole dance and sharing some frustration about things that we sometimes felt were missing from our dancing, and sometimes from other women’s dancing as well.  Meghan was struggling to express exactly what she meant and so finally she just said, “It’s just like there is not enough of THIS!”, making a large downward V-motion  along her vagina with her hands, repeatedly.  I’m going to insert a picture here, so you can REALLY see what I mean.

“This?” I said, repeating the motion with my own hands, and trying to find words for it.  
“Yeah, this!”  She said, repeating the motion.
“You mean…Anchoring Through Your Vagina?” I asked.
“YES!” she said.  We exploded into laughter, but I knew exactly what she meant.  She was talking about this feeling that sometimes, despite all the hip circling and head tossing, there could be a real lack of sexual force and presence in the way we move.  That our seat, our pelvic floor, was somehow not connected to the earth, that somehow we weren’t really living in that sexual space between our legs, just making shallow attempts at it.  It’s an awful feeling.  Empty and powerless.

A few days later I was out with some of my other lovely friends (who have all either pole danced or are currently pole dancing, or are teaching pole dancing) for a mani/pedi/martini evening.  As we were letting our nails dry, catching up on each other's lives and flipping through the gossip magazines, Heather announced that Katie Holmes was set to play Jackie O. in some made-for-TV movie.  “Whaaaaat?”   Everyone was a bit surprised.  I pointed out that it was as weird as Jennifer Love-Hewitt  being cast to play Audrey Hepburn.  It just didn’t feel right, there wasn’t enough oomph, enough presence, enough weight or depth to these women, you know they just weren’t…and  all of a sudden I found myself making the downward V-motion along my vagina.  Rather emphatically.  My friends looked at me quizzically.  “Uh, no, we don’t know.  What’s…?” And they repeated the motion. 
“Anchored Through Your Vagina.” I explained.  They laughed their heads off.  And of course, they completely got it.
“I love how you said that, like it’s just an everyday thing…and it kind of should be!” said my friend Meghan S. (I have two Meghans in my life, and they are both splendid people).
“Yeah, sort of like ‘What did you do today?’ ‘Oh, I went to get a hamburger, oh and by the way,  I’m 
Anchored Through My Vagina” said my friend Julie.
EXACTLY like that!  For the rest of the evening, we inserted the phrase “Anchored Through My Vagina” whenever possible, along with the hand gestures.  Between that, and smacking our own asses at dinner to describe the way someone danced, we had quite the evening. 

At one point during dinner, my friend Meghan S. pointed out that it might actually be really important to have that sensation of anchoring, of external force coming from the vagina, because it so often spends its time taking things in.  She’s right.  We don’t spend a lot of time pushing out from our vaginas, unless we are giving birth.  Most of us are hardly aware of our pelvic floors in our day-to-day living.  And yet, there is a deep well of knowledge that lives in that part of our bodies.  It can inform us about our sexuality, our desires, our fears and our scars.  When we take the time to explore that part of ourselves in our dance, we begin to make friends with it.   And I think what also begins to happen is that we start to feel a certain weight and presence in our sexuality and in our movements.  The movement no longer come from our arms and legs, it comes from our pelvis, from our seat of power.  And this discovery gets translated into how we move in our everyday lives. 
So the next time you dance, see if you can find that connection to your pelvic floor.  And if you feel disconnected from your movement,  see if you can find a way through it by exploring the space in between your hip bones.  And the next time you are feeling distanced from your  sexuality, ungrounded or even disempowered, ladies,  simply point your hands into that  magical V-Shape (emphatically) and repeat these words: “…And I am Anchored Through My Vagina"!  

16 comments:

  1. Great post Claire. I never think about that and it's true! Our society teaches us to shield our vaginas and hide them. Harnessing that power will make a huge difference in confidence I think.
    I will try to channel and become "anchored through my vagina" next time I dance.

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  2. I agree, Chic Fit! It boosts confidence and I think it boosts quality of movement.
    And thank you!

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  3. Another great post, Claire! We should all be anchored through our vaginas!! ;)

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  4. Yes! I want to be anchored through my vagina as well! But mostly I want to walk around making the gesture. :-D

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  5. Jennifer thank you! I know it's such a fantastic expression! And I love the gesture too Lorashel! ;-D

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  6. What an absolutely terrific and evocative phrase! I plan on stealing it and using it liberally! :-)

    I am honestly always shocked when I discover that any woman I know is unfamiliar with her vagina. I have met a number of women who don't masturbate, and it's basically because they are uncomfortable with their own seat of sexuality. They had never, even as a little girl, taken a mirror and gotten to know themselves "down there."

    And it's such an important part of who we are as women! I don't understand how a woman can allow other people access to parts of her that she hasn't even fully checked out yet for herself.

    Sarah Daisy

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  7. Honest and hilarious! I can so see the scenario of you tow having this conversation! I had an amazing yoga instructor years ago that was all about anchoring and breathing from the pelvic floor. I loved the confidence and peace she exuded.

    Great site Claire! Keep it up.

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