Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Monday, September 26, 2011

Don't Miss "Around the Pole" blogtalk show TOMORROW

I'm super excited to be on the air tomorrow with "Around The Pole" talking about The Pole Story, Mother Theresa, and Vertical Art and Fitness Magazine.

Click here for more information and tune in at noon on Tuesday September 27th at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/aroundthepole!


Thursday, September 22, 2011

Parties! Interviews! Videos!

Apparently this is my week to be interviewed.  And I am not complaining! First there was the lovely Sheena LaShay,  and now another beauty named Lorashel has posted an interview on her pole blog.  Twirly Girl is how she is known in the Pole World

Click here to read the interview.  



And in Equally Exciting News, I am throwing a Book Launch Fundraiser  PARTY for The Pole Story October 14th at Movement Studio LA!  Click here to purchase tickets.  Click on the new member special then go to events.


Proceeds will go to benefit the Young Survivor Coalition - 
a charity that focuses on helping women under 35 who have been diagnosed with breast cancer.  I chose this charity because October is breast cancer awareness month and also because my aunt is currently battling breast cancer.




Sneak peek of one of the prizes you could win!!!





Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Interview with the Fabulous Sheena LaShay!

So I love being interviewed.  Especially about pole dancing.  And it's even better when the questions I get asked really make me think.  So it's no wonder that I loved "talking" with Sheena LaShay!  She is smart, articulate, thoughtful, and she is passionate about the pole and female sensuality.  And we see eye-to-eye on quite a bit!

Click here to read the interview and don't forget to check out the rest of her website!


Tuesday, September 20, 2011

U.S. Embassy Rejects Pole Dancers - Response to Pole Spin's Article


I recently read in Pole Spin Magazine that several dancers were given a hard time coming to the United States to pole dance.  I found the article intriguing, but I was a little disappointed in the tone and the message.  In an attempt to create a dialogue about the topic (because I think it's important) I posted a comment.  For whatever reason, the comment was deleted and comments were subsequently closed.  At any rate I'm curious to hear what the pole community thinks about this topic.  So please,

Click here to read the article.

And read my comment below...then let me know what you think.


I'm actually glad to hear that the Feds are on point with regards to human trafficking.  I think it's great that they are being so cautious. Yes, people still confuse pole dancing with stripping.  And it's unfortunate that these women got caught in the middle of that.  But I'm not sure how I feel about having work in a gentlemen's club referred to as "sleazy and illegal'" since that's not always the case.  And frankly, I found the tone of this article to be a bit disparaging towards the industry that gave birth to pole dancing: the strip club industry.


What this story points out is not that "we have a long way to go before the stripper association is dislodged from people's minds".  Rather, I think it points out that we still have a huge problem with human trafficking and sex slavery.  And I think that dislodging the stripper association from pole dancing will not, in the big picture, do that much to help the much bigger problem of how our culture relates to expressions of female sexuality (which in turn, contributes to problems like human trafficking and sex slavery).  And, I think it's hypocritical to look down on the women who started this movement - i.e. the strippers.  If we talk about this movement being empowering for women then we disown the very women who created it, then we are not practicing what we preach.  It's not that I don't think there is a difference between clubs and studios, stripping and pole dancing - there is.  But we don't need to make that difference apparent by putting down women who choose to dance in a different context.  It has nothing to do with the movement.  I've seen women who dance extremely sensually in competitions and performances.  Removing the sexiness from the movement is not what will change people's minds about pole dancing.  Rather, we need to educate them about the differences in the environment and the purpose of the dance when it comes to clubs and studios, and help them to get more comfortable with displays of female sensuality.




Thursday, September 15, 2011

Miley Cyrus - A Pole Lotta Trouble


Miley Cyrus is the latest tween-turned-teen to find herself under scrutiny for somehow tarnishing her “good girl” image by, well, growing up.   Says Cyrus, “Every 18-year-old explores sexuality and experiments and tries things.  For me there’s no reason to change that.  You have to be true to yourself.”  Cyrus isn’t just growing up - she is growing up and being honest about it.  Which is a refreshing change from other child stars that have made a similar transition.  Take Britney Spears for example who said in her very first interview with Rolling Stone Magazine that she wasn’t trying to be sexy.  Uh-huh, sure Brit.

What’s interesting about the public perception of Cyrus is that her transition from girl to woman is met with such shock and outrage.  It’s as though watching Miley Cyrus go from a blonde, innocent little girl to a sexy young woman reminds us that all of our daughters will eventually go through that same transition.  And no one likes to think about his or her little girl as a sexy woman. 

But why is that?  And even more importantly, why, the second that a woman begins to play with, or experiment with her sexuality do we start the think of her as “bad”?  While it’s true that an 18-year-old woman may no longer be a fitting role model for young girls, is that particularly surprising or wrong?  And why should we shame a young woman for no longer being a role model for girls by calling her “bad” or even “controversial”?  It’s as if we want to punish her for coming into womanhood.
Miley’s fan base has grown up alongside her.  She is behaving like a young adult, just as they are, and being very open about it.  The ones who do look up to me as a role model…I think it’s because I’m so real. If they tell you that they haven’t tried this or haven’t experimented with that, they’re lying. And I’ll never do that because personally I can’t, because there will be some proof on the Internet.” 
 
We don’t offer young women today any guidance on how to explore their sexuality.  Instead, we tell them what to watch out for, what not to be, and what to avoid completely.  But this pushes women down a deeply inauthentic and sexually disconnected path.  Instead, we need to teach them how to discover what their sexuality means to them. And if sexuality is something that is primarily experienced in the body, then the best and healthiest way to explore sexuality is through the body – whether through dressing up, dance or even touch.  Miley Cyrus got in a lot of trouble when she used a pole in her performance for “Party in the USA”.  Ironically, pole dancing can be an excellent way for a woman to explore her sexuality.   Pole dancing awakens the body and teaches women about sensuality – usually in an all-female environment.  The majority of women who pole dance will say that it has increased their confidence as well as their awareness of their sense of desire in their bodies. 

Women make well-informed and judicious decisions about their sexuality when they have an experience of and relationship to the feeling of desire that resides in their body, rather than just an intellectual relationship with it.  If a young woman, through dance, dress-up or touch can begin to feel in her body what she likes and doesn't like, what feels good to her and what doesn't, if she can begin to relate to her sexuality, not just as being accessible to a man, but as something that is hers - to share or not share - then perhaps she will carry that out into the world, into her interactions with men and women.  And if she does, than she will be better equipped to know, through her own internal direction and guidance, what she wants and doesn't want when it comes to sex.  And this is a very individual decision.    If we want to teach women to make healthy decisions for themselves and to be sexually empowered then we must give them permission to freely explore their desires. 

Miley Cyrus is doing what every young woman does when she starts to discover her sexuality and its power: she is playing with it, experimenting, trying things on.  And she is trying to stay true to herself.  The majority of the media’s response to this behavior has been, “Should Miley be sexy?” 
Why the hell not?
It would be so wonderful if instead of being upset and threatened by her newfound sexiness, the public could recognize the beauty that is unfolding before them, appreciate the honesty with which she is exploring her sexuality and applaud her for becoming a woman.  After all, that’s exactly what we would do for a young man.  Take for example Taylor Lautner, from the popular Twilight movies.  At 19 years old, he is promoted as a sexy young stud and admired for his constant shirtless appearances.   And yet the young women who scream for him to remove his shirt, who show their sexual desire for him, who put on thigh high boots to get his attention- the ones who ultimately put him in the spotlight by being fans - are considered “bad” somehow.  They are going through the same thing as Miley.  They are figuring out what they want and expressing the changes in their minds and their bodies.   But the difference is the minute a woman puts her sexuality on display, everyone starts to ask where she went wrong.   And when a man does it, he gets a handshake and a pat on the back.  Nobody is asking whether or not Taylor Lautner should be sexy or whether or not he is a bad boy for doing so.  So why is Miley Cyrus in so much trouble?